Helping clients to better understand their relationship to their wealth is a key role for a financial planner.
We not only need to understand their objectives and motivations, we should also help them uncover new objectives that they did not realise were achievable. To dare them to dream.
A common issue we face when speaking with clients is that of ‘Permission’. It comes up when we are helping clients to increase their range of options in life. I blogged about this back in May 2013.
So what can we financial planners do to help clients increase their range of options when setting objectives?
Each person’s world view is made up of their collected experiences and their reactions to them. These create values, which influence experiences, which create new reactions. Round the cycle we go from the moment we are born.
This creates a belief system which inevitably informs our choices and options. These very beliefs, however, may be limiting our options.
Here are a few examples of self-limiting beliefs:
I can’t do X because of Y
I won’t be happy until I have enough money
I don’t have enough resources (a tactic to give ourselves permission to remain stuck)
I have too many responsibilities to have fun
Earning money is hard work
I’m expected to … (by whom?)
It’s just the way things are (collective assumption)
Options only increase with wealth
The key point here is that beliefs are not truths.
It is easy to get caught up in allowing our beliefs to define us. They shape our thinking and our actions but can prevent us from seeing opportunities and can discourage us from even trying at all.
It is difficult to change one’s beliefs and fixed ideas. There is frequently a time lag between changes in thinking and actual changes in our emotional state. Even when we recognise that something isn’t logical or rational, there will be an internal forceful debate between our rational and irrational thoughts over a period of time.
This is where an experienced financial planner can help the client to identify and maybe challenge their beliefs in order to allow new options.
Generating More Options
The process of generating more options is really about being creative, using lateral thinking to break out of from the limitations of the current world view.
For example it is typically the case that the first idea we come up with to a question is going to be based on existing thinking (here’s a suggestion – when trying to come up with new solutions, write down all your ideas as fast as possible, then set that list aside and start again).
Here are a few ideas when helping clients to consider their financial future:
Questions should be open in order to explore more ideas: “What else …”
Use brainstorming – the process of creating ideas without limitations and without judging them
Get all the ideas out before considering their merits
Use questions that suspend limits-based thinking: “If there were no limits on … what would you do then?”
Use questions that break the rules: “What if you didn’t need to …”
You are aiming to create and list as many options as possible with as little evaluation and judgment as possible. Only once such a list is created should you then evaluate them for suitability and feasibility.
And if the client dismisses an idea, test whether this is because it contradicts one of their self-limiting beliefs.
Understanding a client’s objectives and creating a financial plan to help achieve them is high quality financial planning and ensures a solid and loyal client base.
Help a client to understand themselves better and uncover dreams they never knew were possible and clients will love you forever, tell all their friends and stick with you for life!
Postscript – Coaching Skills For Advisers courses
In the blog from May 2013 I advocated greater training for soft skills for advisers. I took this seriously and we (that is highly experienced coach Jan Bowen-Nielsen) have been running courses for advisers to use coaching skills, with the objective of really helping clients to understand themselves better. Only once clients have really clear objectives and motivations can we put a financial plan in place.
Indeed, never mind the ‘planning vs product’ debate (which is a non debate in my view – they are both important, but planning must come first). Seeking client motivations and even helping them to understand themselves better comes before either the planning or the product stage.
If you’re interested in these courses you can:
Come and see me talk about this whole issue at the IFP conference
Contact me on Twitter (@ovationchris)
Email firstname.lastname@example.org and mention ‘Coaching skills for advisers’ (courses open to non threesixty clients)